Falling In Love With My Style
Happy Valentines Day!
I don’t know about you but Valentine’s Day seems to have crept up on me this year. Actually this whole year is just going super fast - not that I’m complaining - I can’t wait to see the other side of winter. Anyway, if you happen to be searching for a last minute pressie for your boyfriend/girlfriend/bestie/whoever, you could buy a voucher or gift cards (uk) - many retailers do e-vouchers, such as H&M, Jack Wills and Urban Outfitters so you don’t even need to brave the stores! Plus it means you can’t go wrong as they get to chose their own present that way - accompany this with some home baked goods and you have a thoughtful present! You can thank me later.
I wanted to do a bit of a chatty post today on something I’ve been wanting to post about for a while - style. When I started this blog way back when, I wanted a place to post about fashion and lifestyle mainly. I dabbled in beauty blogging but that just never worked out well, so I’m not surprised I mostly dropped that topic. But somewhere along the line I also stopped talking about fashion on here. And I miss that.
I’ve recently really got back into fashion, putting together outfits and finding my personal style. I’m really embracing the clothes I personally like to wear, rather than buying clothes blindly because it looks good on another blogger or copying trends that I’m not even sure suit me.
I’ve always loved a slightly more alternative style. Back in high school: backcombed bright red hair, knee high converses, studded belts - that was my look. And I loved it. My sense of style was very much connected to my favourite bands and the music I listened to. But my school lacked that scene and to be honest after a while, I just wanted to blend in a little more, and these feelings carried over to university.
Then I moved to Germany with very little luggage space to play with and hence lived with a capsule wardrobe. I know there’s a lot to be said for a capsule wardrobe, but for me it was a sure-fire way to kill my love for fashion!
But, I digress.
I have fallen back in love with fashion and really feel like I’m finding my feet with my style again.
This is definitely not an overnight process, and to be honest, I feel like personal style is a journey that never ends. But it’s definitely an enjoyable one. Loving the outfit you are wearing and the confidence it gives you is an amazing feeling.
Stop caring what other people think
Learning not to care what other people think was the first step for me, and it was a hard one. Being bullied in school, partly because I dressed differently, left me with insecurities I needed to overcome. Kids are mean, man. Seriously though, people don’t give a shit what you’re wearing, what music you listen to, what colour your hair is, whether you have tattoos and piercings or you don’t. It doesn’t matter.
And if it does matter, lol that friend aint no frend.
Find inspiration in magazines, on instagram or amongst pinterest, but don’t copy
Copying an outfit down to the T (shirt - ha) will rarely ever look good. What’s the saying? 'Good artists copy; great artists steal’. What this means is, don’t copy an outfit piece for piece, but sure go ahead and ‘steal’ an idea and make it work for you.
I also find that changing up who I follow and find inspiration in helped a lot. I’d found I was following a lot of fashion bloggers who were seriously popular, but who’s style I could just never emulate, or bloggers who have a completely different body shape to me and were wearing trends that just wouldn’t look right on me.
I’ve recently started following more alternative bloggers, bloggers who’s style I absolutely adore regardless of how many followers they have or whether their photos look like they are straight out of a magazine.
You don’t need to follow every trend
This is definitely something I’ve fallen into the trap of in the past. Just thinking about some of the posts I've done on this blog such as a focus on daisy and pastel trends - a world away from my more grungy style now! I followed trends, whether or not I actually liked them but just because something is 'in' right now - doesn't mean you have to wear it! You can pick and chose, or set your own trends.
Be adventurous and don’t follow ‘rules’
There are a lot of ‘rules’ that are dictated to us in fashion, but rules are made to be broken ey. Rules such as minimal accessories and jewellery, only wearing a certain style because of your body type, don’t mix prints, don’t wear denim on denim. It’s all bullshit.
You don’t ever need to worry about following fashion ‘rules’. Just because it’s in the men’s section, doesn’t mean it’s off limits. Buying a jumper a few sizes up for a slouchy look is totally OK. The more I’ve embraced this and shook off expectations, the more comfortable I feel. I LOVE borrowing tshirts or shirts from my boyfriend’s (smaller) half of the wardrobe for a more casual look or wearing probably too many rings. In fact, the scarf I am wearing in this outfit is my boyfriend's!
As it's Valentines Day, I just wanted to share a little bit of love <3 I want to say a massive thank you to my gorgeous boyfriend for shooting these photos for me - I dragged him out in freezing temperatures, walking through a lot of mud to get to the top of this little hill. If I look cold in these photos, it's because I bloody was. It hailed moments after we finished and we had to walk home in it! But yeah, I just wanted to say thank you Luke for putting up with a blogger girlfriend, your constant support and giving me some amazing creative guidance. I love you always.